A recent story on Yahoo peaked my interest about a celebrity talk show hostess who lost a Super Bowl bet and was forced to appear on her daytime show without make-up.  To make matters worse, she was scheduled to interview George Clooney and would be meeting him for the first time sans make-up. Yikes!  In order to compensate for her au natural face, she attempted to restyle her own hair to draw attention away from her fresh face. She declared her effort a miserable failure.

Why is it when everything around us seems to be falling apart, we women feel the need to change our hairstyle?  When life is out of control and we can’t “fix” any of life’s problems, we typically try to “fix” the one thing we feel we can control:  our hair. 

What pregnant woman hasn’t made a major hairstyle change at some point through the weight gain of pregnancy?  What little girl hasn’t grabbed a pair of scissors and played Vidal Sassoon with her Barbie dolls or worse yet – an unsuspecting sister or best friend?  We seem to be obsessed with hair.

First impressions are generally based on our physical appearance and our hairstyle plays a huge part in those first impressions. Case in point … what was this girl thinking?


Looking back through the decades I find myself wondering, what was I thinking with some of my unfortunate hairstyles.  From my Farrah flip in the 70s to that tight curly perm in the 80s, I’ve done  it all with regards to my hair.

Hair is one of the things we women feel defines us.  The mere mention of a “bad hair day” and we’re instantly besieged with pitying looks.  I’ve missed social events because of a bad hair day.  I’ve called in sick to work due to a bad hair day (a failed attempt at a home coloring job and a do-it-yourself haircut).  As a single girl many decades ago I cancelled dates due to bad hair.  I’ve missed church because of my fickle hair and I’ve lived like a hermit refusing to leave my house until a bad haircut grew out enough so I wouldn’t be mistaken for a man.

As we get older our hair stops growing and starts to thin and we lose it by the handfuls – yet at the same time we start sprouting hair in places we don’t need extra hair … like our upper lip and our chins!  Hello, Universe … what’s that all about?

Men can be equally obsessed with hair. Picture the man with the bad comb-over or the guy who never removes his ball cap because he’s embarrassed by the cul-de-sac on the top of his chrome dome.  Men may not complain about bad hair days as frequently as we girls – but they more than make up for it with their worries over their bald spots. They’ve got their own club, after all:  Hair club for men.

Many years ago a close friend of mine was undergoing chemotherapy and was told that there was a 70% chance she was going to lose her hair.  Because my friend had thick, long blonde hair I knew losing her hair would be devastating for her. Not knowing exactly what to pray for her, I did a word search in the NLT and discovered that God actually has a lot to say about hair.  My word search revealed 105 references to hair. (As a side note, my friend’s long locks survived the chemo!)

The story of Samson and Delilah in Judges 16 reveals that Samson’s strength was in his long hair and he was instructed to never cut his hair.

Proverbs 16:31 tells us that, “Gray hair is a crown of glory; it is gained by living a godly life.”  As much as I like hearing this, I don’t think I can give up my obsession to professional hair coloring.  I’ve been seeing the same stylist for over 13 years now and I’m pretty sure with what I’ve paid her over the years I financed the recent remodel in her master bathroom.  I’m still a little too vain to let my hair go completely gray!

One of my favorite versus is Luke 12:6:   And the very hairs on your head are all numbered.” 

The average brunette female has about 110,000 hairs on her head; blondes about 140,000. The way I see it – if God cares so much for me that He’s bothered to number my hairs, then it’s reasonably okay for me to obsess a little bit if many of those hairs are misbehaving and making me so crazy that I have to miss church occasionally due to a bad hair day.

“It’s only hair and it will grow out eventually” is good advice, but sometimes it’s going to make us a little crazy because it really is more than just hair …  

And isn’t long hair a woman’s pride and joy? For it has been given to her as a covering.”  1 Corinthians 11:15 (NLT)

Respect the covering!


As always … Happy reading!

Kathy K.